Rules

[TomM]

Forum Rules
Rules... of the Forum/Board simply stated!
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Rules Of The Forum/Board
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Those that break the rules of the board will not be allowed to participate and those posts will be removed.
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We do not have time to give warnings and cautions to forum members using poor judgment regarding subject and language on the forum.
If you don't know enough to use good judgment in your choice of words, or subject, you should expect to be blocked.

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Please:
Let's step back from the keyboard before hitting "Submit" after writing out our posts.
There is absolutely no place in the forum intended to be used to be hurtful towards kids.  That is not the purpose of this forum.
So, please think before hitting "Submit".
How about we try using this criteria...before hitting "submit":
1) May this hurt some young person or damage someones reputation? (if it will hurt someone don't hit "submit")
2) Am I doing this to be mean? (if you are doing it to be mean don't hit "submit")
3) Do I have real facts or hearsay? (if it's hearsay, don't "submit")
4) Am I doing anyone any good by posting this? (if you are not doing anyone any good don't hit "submit")
5) Opinion has a place, but not always.  (if your opinion is negative or hurtful, don't hit "submit")
Let's give kids a chance.
Thanks,
Tom

Rules of Engagement
■Be truthful. Cite your sources when making claims of fact. Comments should be on topic, accurate, timely and fair. Share your eyewitness accounts, background, observations and history so that you advance what we all can learn about the story. Ask about what you don't know.

If there are hurtful things posted on the forum please contact me at trm@wiwrestling.com
I frequently remove posts that I find objectionable, but will listen if sent emails directing me to problems.

[TomM]

5 Ways to (Respectfully) Disagree

It's easier to agree than disagree. But we can learn a lot from conversations where we don't see eye to eye — if we can listen and talk rationally, that is.

Unfortunately, many us either shy away completely from disagreements or lose it when things don't go our way. These 5 tips can help keep disagreements constructive — whether you're talking to a parent, friend, or anyone else:
1.Don't make it personal. If you get upset, it can help to remember you're mad at the idea or concept your parent (or friend, coach, coworker, etc.) is raising, not the person.
2.Avoid putting down the other person's ideas and beliefs. If you've ever been on the receiving end of someone's tirade or put-downs, you know how valuable using respectful language and behavior can be. So instead of saying what you might be thinking ("That's a stupid idea!"), try: "I don't agree, and here's why." Resist the temptation to yell, use sarcasm, or make derogatory comments and you'll have a much better chance of getting your point across.
3.Use "I" statements to communicate how you feel, what you think, and what you want or need. Using "you" statements can sound argumentative. For example, telling your mom or dad, "You always remind me about my chores on Wednesdays when you know I have a lot of homework" has a very different tone from "I'm feeling pressured because I have a lot of homework tonight. Can I do those chores tomorrow?"
4.Listen to the other point of view. Being a good listener is a way of showing that you respect and understand the other person's perspective. That makes it more likely he or she will do the same for you. When the other person is talking, try to stop yourself from thinking about why you disagree or what you'll say next. Instead, focus on what's being said. When it's your turn to talk, repeat any key points the other person made to show you listened and heard what was said. Then calmly present your case and why you disagree.
5.Stay calm. This is the most important thing you can do to keep a conversation on track. Of course, it's a huge challenge to stay calm and rational when you feel angry or passionate about something — especially if the person you're talking to gets heated. You may need to be the mature one who manages the conversation, even if the other person is a parent or someone who should know better.

Respect goes beyond difficult conversations, of course. Being helpful and considerate toward family members, teachers, or coaches in our everyday actions helps all of us (again, parents included!) establish a foundation for those times when we might disagree.